The Process of Letting Go
Yes, letting go of the kids is a process. At least for me it is.
I have a much easier time when change, or the next level of life comes, if I remind myself that it is coming, and that it is a good thing.
I know that I need to mentally and emotionally prepare myself for the change or the growth that is coming. One way I do that, is to think about life, the normal things of life, and remind myself that my kids are only mine to raise and to love.
Dan and I both know, and agree, that the goal of parenting is more than ending up with adult children.
It is to end up having done the job so well, that we know they know right from wrong.
It’s having taught them the ways of God, and knowing that they have made good decisions, and hopefully God decisions.
It’s in a way, trusting the Lord to keep His word to us, to protect and guide our kids as they move on.
It’s deciding to step back and watch, but be willing to offer an opinion or guidance when asked for.
It’s making the decision to give back the gift that God blessed us with, having done everything we know how to in raising them for Him.
Parenting is forever, but in the process we must let them go.
That’s the way God designed it, and He has our best and their best in mind.
The process of letting go doesn’t happen over night. It begins the moment you become a parent.
The only thing is, you may not realize it and prepare yourself for it, unless you see it coming.
First steps, whether those first baby steps, or those first steps out into the world, are exciting for the child, and scary for the parent.
Letting go, and letting God, will help.
July 10th, 2009 at 10:40 pm
Good thoughts. God gives us time to prepare, if we make use of it.