Angry at God?
Have you ever known anyone who was angry at God?
Maybe you feel angry at God sometimes, or feel like He knew what was going to happen, so why didn’t He stop it.
I was talking to someone last night who seems to be very angry at God. He has a relationship with God, has accepted Jesus as his savior, but blames God for everything that happens.
I have a very close relationship with this person, but when someone is so angry and they know the right way to handle it, I try to not say too much about it to them.
I am praying for him.
I also will look for opportunities to encourage him to be honest with God. He already knows what is going on inside of us, so why not tell Him and at the same time ask him to help us deal with our anger and our hearts attitude towards Him.
I am also praying that this person remember that they need to take responsibility for their own decisions and actions. So often we make bad decisions, and do things we know we shouldn’t, but then find some way to place blame on someone else.
We also seem to expect that because we are Christians, God will make our lives perfect for us- because we believe in and love Him.
Not true.
Often we will go through tests and times of distress because we were foolish, or made a mistake, or even thought we were doing the right thing, and it turned out to be the wrong thing.
As a parent, I try to make my kids take responsibility for their actions. Not place blame, and not expect that they will always have it easy.
We also tend to look at God like He plays favorites. It seems like that person over there has it so easy, therefore, God must love her more than He loves me, right? Everything goes right for them, but not for me. God must think they are better than me.
Not true.
As a parent, I can honestly say that I don’t love one of my children more than another. I may treat them different from eachother, and I know I do- because they are each different from the others.
What is right for one may not be right for the others. The disciplinary action that is right for one, may not be right for the others.
They are each individual people with unique sets of needs.
God sees us the same way.
He sees us each one apart from the other, not one clump of children.
Therefore He will deal with each of us as individuals, yet extend to each of us His Grace, Mercy and Love.
We each make different mistakes, but some mistakes have higher consequences than others.
God made a way of forgiveness, and He willingly forgives, but that odesn’t mean there will be no consequences.
I also believe He restores us,completely.
But that doesn’t mean He erases the natural consequece of what we have already set in motion.
He can, but He won’t most of the time.
If we continue to mess up in the same areas, the consequences of our decisions will be worse and the ability to fight temptation will be less.
If we blame God for our life decisions and consequences, telling ourselves that He should have prevented us from doing those things or facing those consequences- we are in essence telling God we don’t want free will, and that we should be able to do whatever we want to without our choices effecting our lives in any negative way.
I remember a talk I had with my oldest daughter, when she was 16, about consequences.
She told me that she thought Dan and I are too leanient. That she thought she could probably do almost anything and get away with it.
I told her that her dad and I believe that every decision has a consequence- either good or bad- and that some of them were consequences that might effect her whole life. I explained that we had brought her up to know right from wrong, and to love the Lord. If we really love Him we will obey Him.
That means making good decisions and doing the right thing. Any punishment her dad and I could hand out wouldn’t have the effect that the consequences she may have to face for bad choices might make.
I also told her that each time we disobey God, it becomes easier to disobey the next time- and harder to make the right choice. One thing does lead to another.
If you or anyone you know, are angry with God for your life decisions and the consequences of those decisions, ask God to help you see things in proper perspective. He will understand and help you deal with getting rid of the anger, and own up to responsibility for yourself.
He really knows already…..so what can you lose?
Anger
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June 29th, 2007 at 10:03 am
I came to a realisation years ago: God is not obligated to bless something He did not lead us to do. It is easy to get angry and blame God when something goes wrong or a plan goes awry. But by striking out on our own instead waiting for God’s guidance, we have removed His hand from the venture by believing in ourselves more than Him. It is like us watching our children try to do something they are not developed enough to do yet. They pitch a fit to do it, say make their own sandwich, and after they have dropped mayonaise on the counter, torn the bread, and can’t get the string off the bologna, they finally get mad and yell “Mom!” I imagine it is the same for God watching us sometimes.
July 2nd, 2007 at 9:34 pm
I too, have been angry at God. When my Dad died, I was angry at God. When i had to go to bed hungry because my mom made $5 too much to get food stamps, i was angry at God. When i had to tell my friends our lights were off because we LIKED the glow of the fireplace, i was angry at God. But, the operable word here is WAS. I recently had to be my mother’s health care proxy. This was the most difficult thing i have had to do in my whole entire life. This is coming from a person who was in Air Force Basic Training at one time! I also had to experience the quadruple heart bypass of my 44 year brother. Someone who, up until that point, was like Rocky, Superman and Einstein all wrapped up in one 5ft 4in. person. But i was not mad at God then. Because he gets another day. My mom also gets another day. A day to live a day to love, to enjoy macaroni on sundays. I have always believed that everything happens for a reason. So how can i be mad at God for that!